Building Self-Esteem

How Learning from Shame Helps Us to Grow

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Pub Date 13 May 2020 | Archive Date 16 Jun 2020

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"With the skill of a master storyteller, Burgo vividly brings to life, through his clients' struggles and his own, our shared journey to accept a startling truth: shame can either hobble us or help us thrive; it all depends on what we do with it. Savor this book's lessons and exercises. You'll come away with the kind of self-compassion that makes us all better people. "-- Dr. Craig Malkin, Lecturer, Harvard Medical School and author of the internationally acclaimed book, Rethinking Narcissism.

Challenging widely-accepted views within the self-esteem movement, author Joseph Burgo argues that self-esteem does NOT thrive in the soil of non-stop praise and encouragement, but rather depends upon setting and meeting goals, living up to the expectations we hold for ourselves, and finally sharing our joy in achievement with the people who matter most to us. Along the way, listening to and learning from our encounters with shame will go further than affirmations and positive self-talk in helping us to build authentic self-esteem.

Richly illustrated with clinical stories from Burgo's 35 years in private practice, Building Self-Esteem also describes the myriad ways that unacknowledged shame often hides behind a broad spectrum of mental disorders including social anxiety, narcissism, addiction, and masochism

"With the skill of a master storyteller, Burgo vividly brings to life, through his clients' struggles and his own, our shared journey to accept a startling truth: shame can either hobble us or help...


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This book touched me so deeply. I was raised in shame and guilt and this book touched on so many feelings. I will definitely need to re-read this one as it was a lot to digest in one read-through. I think I'll be purchasing the hard copy to highlight, reference and have as a resource to go back to when needed.

Thank you Joseph Burgo, New Rise Press and NetGalley for the eARC in exchange for my honest review. Always so grateful for the opportunity to read complimentary books!

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I've only read 9 pages and I already like this doctor - so far he's talked about SHAME being different to shame in a way that even *I* can understand which is a relief and I'm putting my SHAME (not embarrassment, apparently) to bed straight away. WTG Dr!

It's just getting better and better... I'm now wishing that I'd read this book a lot earlier in my life 'cos I've been nodding all the way through so far and I really feel for Olivia, 'cos I've felt the way she was feeling soooo many times!

I'm loving these case study thingamejigs... I've got no idea if they are real clients of the author or not, but they are amazing and I'm still nodding along to them 'cos I can relate to so much of what the author is writing about!

Yep, I've uttered every one of those comments on pages 191-192! lol

How do you pronounce "secessionist" please? My husband and I are both struggling with that word lol

Just finished it and I really appreciate the time and writing of the author... a definite recommendation to everyone with even a slight interest in improving their self-esteem and/or a look inside an American Psychologists head!

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What an amazing book! I often give workshops on building self-confidence and self-efficacy, so I like to read books on the subjects when I get the chance. Joseph Burgo has a wonderful style of writing that is comforting, enlightening and astute. This book covers feelings of shame rooted in childhood, social anxiety, an idealized false self, blame and defiance., to name but a few. It also discusses techniques to build up resilience, develop a sense of healthy pride and experience more joy. There are case studies , surveys and exercises to help readers navigate the healing process. Five stars.

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